The Conversation

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Well, wingnuts teacher finally had that conversation with me, the one that I have been expecting for awhile about my sons inability to stay still. She was nice about it and basically asked if there was something he particularly liked that they could bribe him with to sit still like at circle time. Note: she did not use the word bribe but it was implied.  The only thing I could think of is getting him a little transformer that the teacher keeps to use. But this is a problem I have been trying to solve for three and a half years. Even when he was first born he never wanted to stay still. Any ideas?

 

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  1. Marie says:
    October 14, 2010 at 8:55 pm

    Get him a weighted blanket. It helps kids sit and stay at task. They use it in therapies for all different conditions but they have found it useful for kids who just need help to sit.

  2. Chelsea says:
    October 14, 2010 at 9:52 pm

    I’ve been through the same thing with my oldest. He has recently been diagnosed with ADHD and we have tried music therapy,swim therapy, fish oil supplements, and chamomile tea. Honestly, though, boys need to be boys and our society has spent too many years trying to squelch those tendencies in our children. Sometimes rewards work with my son, but the biggest thing has been allowing him to learn at his own pace and not forcing group activiites on him. He gets overwhlemed with a whole class around and that’s when he starts causing problems. Hope this helps, or at least lets you know your son is probably fine, it’s society with the problem!

  3. Anne says:
    October 15, 2010 at 1:27 am

    Just my two cents – he’s a young boy. Young boys like to be active. Throughout most of history boys his age would be digging holes to China in the backyard, catching tadpoles in a stream, making things out of sticks, etc. It is just in recent years that we’ve expected them to want to sit in a circle and listen to a stranger read aloud. (Even as an adult woman, I couldn’t STAND that).

    There’s a difference between kids who have spent way too much time watching inane tv and playing video games and who have no ability to pay attention in other realms and a normal boy like Wingnut who is still just growing up. It isn’t as if he doesn’t focus and concentrate at anything. Don’t let the teacher get to you. I wonder if she has ever had children? Much less, boys?
    In my opinion, she has unreasonable expectations and Wingnut is being a normal little boy who sees a whole world out there to explore.

  4. Arwen says:
    October 15, 2010 at 2:30 am

    I am surprised too that she would expect a boy that age to sit still. I am not sure it’s even possible to bribe (er… reward) a kid to sit still when he can’t anyway, as it’s not generally something they have a lot of control over or are doing on purpose.

    I would be tempted to sugget she try being more interesting. ;)

  5. Robin says:
    October 26, 2010 at 7:45 pm

    There are a few kids at my son’s preschool who have the same problem, and for some of them, a transitional object (like your transformer) really can help. But, they’re also 3. Sitting still cna be just plain hard for them. Hopefully, your preschool teacher tempers the high expectations with understanding and lots of support too.

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